We hear a lot these days about the concept of self-love and it remains one of the biggest challenges in dealing with trauma. However, for many it is often easier to cultivate an attitude of loving others. Or so it seems. Perhaps it is a false myth that its easier to love others than oneself. Perhaps it’s not as hard as that. My experience for example with anxiety is that there is too much pressure put on either “embracing it” or using some kind of mantra to reduce its intensity. What if we can look at our anxiety like a suffering child? Can we offer kindness, concern, curiosity. Can we simply be present, mindful, curious and yes…loving. Can we in fact conjure in our minds those powerful images whether they be Buddha, Jesus, Eros or of The Great Mother or Father. Not to get “rid” of the anxiety but to provide it solace, comfort…and love.