If it comes to a neurosis, we invariably have to deal with a considerably intensified shadow. And if such a person wants to be cured it is necessary to find a way in which his conscious personality and his shadow can live together. CG Jung, CW11:132

In my opinion one of the most destructive aspects of early trauma is an avoidance of emotions – our own and others – however this does not need to be permanent condition. With patience, guidance and grace, one can slowly begin to tolerate difficult emotions and therefore attain a greater degree of emotional independence.