The most challenging thing in maintaining healthy communication with our children, is the ability to manage our own emotions.   And when we are able to portray a quiet confidence, it promotes the space for a productive conversation. Read more

Working on yourself, is like being your own coach. The best coaches combine firm discipline with a love of their work and a respect for the person they are coaching. They also understand that improvement comes incrementally, that there will be backslides. In addition, there is the view that the process needs to be respected… Read more

We hear a lot these days about the concept of self-love and it remains one of the biggest challenges in dealing with trauma. However, for many it is often easier to cultivate an attitude of loving others. Or so it seems. Perhaps it is a false myth that its easier to love others than oneself.… Read more

Recently I was asked several questions in regard to Sober Dating. What would you suggest someone do when their date reacts poorly to finding out that you’re sober? Maybe your date is mean or begins to pry, or they try to get you to “just have one?” How should someone newly sober and vulnerable handle… Read more

If it comes to a neurosis, we invariably have to deal with a considerably intensified shadow. And if such a person wants to be cured it is necessary to find a way in which his conscious personality and his shadow can live together. CG Jung, CW11:132 Read more

In my opinion one of the most destructive aspects of early trauma is an avoidance of emotions – our own and others – however this does not need to be permanent condition. With patience, guidance and grace, one can slowly begin to tolerate difficult emotions and therefore attain a greater degree of emotional independence. Read more